Realism is not a religion, but those with an unbreakable frame of reality follow it religiously.
What this means in practice is that being a realist is not just something you implement when you feel like it or when it's convenient, it's an extremely fundamental part of who you are, and you must identify with it so strongly in order to truly follow it that you fully internalize that it's what your life stands for at its core essence. In this way, being a realist becomes a very active part of your personality, which is the unique way that you express information.
Your personality is driven by your frame of reality and your primary value, and since properly following realism causes an unbreakable frame of reality and an extremely powerful primary value, it should go without saying that an individual that is a true pure realist will undoubtedly possess a very strong personality.
It is a common misconception that realism is either merely a glorified form of pessimism, or a naive form of optimism; this is not the case.
Reality is comprised of both good and bad elements, and without accepting the negative elements of life, one cannot fully understand and appreciate the positive elements for what they really are. Conversely, without understanding and appreciating the positive elements for all that they could be, one cannot accurately grasp and accept the negative elements to understand why they're present and what could possibly be done to minimize or eliminate them.
Realists understand that the reality is that every person is intended to be different and hold different beliefs and perceptions of their internal and external worlds. All the various interpretations of reality are merely a compliment to the complex nature of the essence of life and all that can possibly be perceived to be what is known to each individual as real.
No matter who you are, what you do, or how you think, understanding value systems will help make your life better.
Realism is grounded in reality, and reality revolves around the perception of value within each individual's conscious experience of life. Being a realist requires a high degree of engagement with reality, which means an active interest and participation in your own life as well as the lives of everyone around you. This adds value.
Value can be defined as the significance an individual identifies with any form or expression within the context of their individual reality. One’s value system then becomes the set of principles and preferences that make them feel good or bad.
This has 2 major implications:
Now before we go any further, perhaps it's worth answering the most obvious question you may have at this point: why should you care? Well, whether you like it or not, whether you're fully aware of it or not, value is the most fundamental life mechanic that drives everything that happens in your experience of life. Understanding what it really means and how it really works will effectively help you to become a much better person for both yourself and the people around you, allowing you to live a much more fulfilling life.
In every interaction, people are looking for a value exchange. The more positive value exchanges you can facilitate between another person, the closer they'll feel to you. Because the scope of value is so vast, you can attempt to facilitate positive value exchanges in a very wide variety of ways. Your ability to identify and maneuver around value exchanges in as optimal of a way as possible is going to be determined by your understanding of value systems.
Primary value is the fire within you.
It's not just what you're thinking or what you're feeling, it's everything that you bring to an interaction before someone's met you. What drives you to wake up every day. What drives why you do what you do. Why you believe you are who you are. You know that if there is nothing else, you still have your primary value.
No matter what anyone tells you or does to you, your primary value is always only going to be as strong as you will allow yourself to make it. Your attitude is what drives primary value, and the more realistic your attitude, the more unstoppable you are. As such, the more realistic your attitude, the higher the degree of primary value you demonstrate the capability for.
Individuals with an unbreakable frame of reality have the highest capacity to discover and experience primary value at all times.
To discover your primary value, you have to remember that it's already there inside of you.
It's not about developing something new, but rather finding something inside of yourself that really moves you. To train your primary value, you really have to confront who you are and what you bring to the table for your environment. You must remove fear and give yourself fully to the world, seeing what it gives back.
You have to see what you stand for, and what works and doesn't work for the kind of life you want to live.
As far as how it feels to know primary value, this is what many call a "flow state".
This is essentially being totally in the moment, where your past is behind you, your future's ahead of you, but you're not thinking of those things; you're present in the moment. Some would call this being "in the zone". You feel at peace with the world, but at the same time full of energy.
It can also be thought of as a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's self-appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.
Passive value is everything else that other people can see without even knowing you.
This is a derivative of your primary value. Maybe it’s a lot of money. Maybe it’s a nice car. Maybe it’s the fact that you’re really physically attractive. Regardless of the specifics, this is a more “shallow” form of value that, while certainly nice to have, does not truly determine what kind of person you are, your intentions, or how you will act in any given situation.
It can also be thought of to a quite significant extent as the story you tell yourself about who you are, and the story that other people tell themselves and their friends about you. This story of your life can be one of the most compelling parts of who you are.
To achieve a genuine passive value, anything that represents your passive value should be a function of a genuine interest in your own life.
Often, we end up framing uncomfortable experiences from a negative perspective. However, upon performing deeper introspection, we can often learn lessons from past experiences, get over any emotional baggage they make us feel like we're carrying, and the resulting reframe allows us to grow as a person.
This happens in 3 fundamental steps:
Active value is the value you bring to the table when you interact with others in your environment.
This is also a derivative of your primary value. While your primary value drives why you do what you do, your active value measures how much positive value you can add to interactions with other people and therefore the overall quality of their life. Passive value can play a role in aiding to add active value, depending on the circumstances.
There are three kinds of active value: personal value, impersonal value, and distinguished value.
As the name suggests, this kind of active value is based purely on the fact that it is centered around the person considering the value.
They effectively put themselves in a position of greater importance than final value, and this causes unhealthy thought cycles. While it's not unhealthy to think of oneself when considering circumstances and situations they are faced with, focusing on personal value causes a distorted frame of reality. Having a distorted frame of reality will result in less-than-ideal results regardless of the circumstances.
Conversely, impersonal value is the kind of active value that is based purely on the fact that it is centered around the environment of the person considering the value.
They effectively put their environment in a position of greater position than themselves, and this also causes unhealthy thought cycles. While it's not unhealthy to think of one's environment when considering circumstances and situations they are faced with, focusing on impersonal value puts one's own needs at an importance which undermines their existence, and that won't result in completely healthy decision-making.
Distinguished value is the kind of active value that results from carefully distinguishing between personal value and impersonal value, and effectively taking both into consideration when providing active value.
One effectively puts themselves in an undistorted frame of reality, which allows them to produce healthy thought cycles. It's unhealthy to put too much focus on oneself or one’s environment when providing active value, and that's specifically why it's fundamental in providing impersonal value that one considers these things to be of equivalent importance to maintain an undistorted frame of reality.
Final value is an all-encapsulating measurement of the objective significance of every aspect of value combined.
It is the only true measurement of a person’s real worth.
Each individual aspect of value plays an important role in final value, but none of them individually can even remotely measure overall value of a person as accurately as final value. The higher one’s final value, the less distorted their frame of reality is. The less distorted one’s frame of reality, the more accurately they can gauge the final value of others. This will gradually improve one’s cognitive reality loop.
Only those with a solid cognitive reality loop are eligible to have an unbreakable frame, and only those with an unbreakable frame are eligible to master projecting final value. Final value can only be accurately quantified by an individual who has a core value of refined pure bidirectional apprehension.
An individual’s frame of reality is essentially the way they perceive the reality they are faced with.
This is also known as the subjective conscious experience.
The more significance an individual attaches to any undistinguished active value, the more distorted their frame of reality will inevitably become. Conversely, the more significance and focus attached to distinguished active value, the closer one becomes to having an unbreakable frame.
An individual with a core value of refined pure bidirectional apprehension has a frame of reality that more accurately reflects objective reality than an individual with an inferior core value, both in pleasant and unpleasant extents.
Having a solid cognitive reality loop is what facilitates internal congruence, which is when your verbals, non-verbals, and inner frame are in alignment. This leads to interaction congruence, which is when others’ frames are positively influenced by yours.
Having a core value of refined pure bidirectional apprehension. Always looking to increase your primary value. Always aiming to provide as much distinguished active energy to your environment as possible. Confidence to appreciate your single life for all of the freedom it gives you. Knowing how to find the right person when the time is right. Knowing how to have the strength to maintain as healthy and fulfilling a relationship as possible once you find that person. Being fully immersed in reality and having the supernatural mindset.
The process by which an individual with a solid cognitive reality loop and an unbreakable frame can learn to master manipulation of inner controlled aggression and use quantum energy in order to facilitate exertion of their energies in incredible ways.
This is an extremely advanced concept, and if you choose not to believe in it, you don't have to worry about it until someone capable of utilizing it presents themselves in your life.
It should not be the reason one seeks to become a realist. With great power comes great responsibility.
Value can only be truly measured in net positive gain.
While it is possible to gain personal value from reducing final value for others whether it be physically or mentally, the net positive gain is harshly affected in these cases. The only way to always provide as much positive value as possible is to be completely independent of the good and the bad opinions of others. This is often referred to as "ego loss" or "being enlightened".
For those not in this state, the only way to achieve this state is to look deep within your ego, face yourself, analyze what parts of your thinking are causing unhealthy thought cycles, and slowly break them down to restore mental health. This is definitely easier said than done.
While many people are aiming to achieve this state, there are those that do not have a value threshold, and thus, simply do not care.
An individual’s value threshold is essentially their capacity to consider value. Every individual has an individual value threshold. While there are a wide range of individuals with acceptable value thresholds, the only individuals you should truly be scared of are the ones who lack a value threshold entirely. They will focus solely on personal active value, regardless of the circumstances, and therefore have the most unhealthy thought cycles possible.
These individuals always possess a core value presentation mismatch.