Every person with an unbreakable frame follows the natural mindset. This means looking at interactions not as something to get something out of and not with an agenda to be able to brag about to others in a future setting. This mindset has a few fundamental characteristics.
Skills are a learned set of behaviors that are properly calibrated to add value to a person's life. Acquire a set of skills that you can roll out at different points in time. In this way, these skills become a part of your personality.
Value as it relates to interpersonal interaction is derived from individual expression. Every expression has a unique form:
When that unique form is good, it gives us value. When that unique form is bad, it takes value from us. When you express, you are either adding or taking value.
Anything you do or say which...
Your beliefs about the world in various areas are going to shape and define the way you interact and therefore your ability to add value. Each position can be more or less appropriate depending on context, and it can take very careful calibration to determine which is truly the correct perspective in more difficult situations.
The intrinsic meaning that people assign to their experiences is something many don't really think about deeply. What default meaning do you assign to incoming data? There are different positions to take when contemplating on experiences that you're framing within your perception, and differing views will produce different thoughts and results, and putting it all into perspective and acquiring and retaining the positions that will have the greatest probability of producing the results you're looking for is always going to be the ideal way to go about thinking about things.
This is quite a lot of information, and it'll very likely take a while to understand all of it. Even then, understanding it is only the beginning. The really difficult part comes in the lifetime it takes to really internalize this information and perform every action you make in life to the best of your abilities.
Nobody’s perfect, and this is because it is the mistakes we make when the times are tough that truly define our character. Always trying to learn and improve is the only way to make the best of what you have. All that being said, everyone is different and your life is yours alone to live. Nobody can tell you the person you should or have to be because in the end only you can truly decide.
Free will has caused many things, both great and disastrous, to happen but it is there regardless. The reality is that the world is not an extremely stupid place, and if you try pushing your luck too hard, things are going to backfire. The chances that you are willing to take are entirely up to the life you want to live.
Understanding all of this information will be the beginning to improving one’s primary value and frame of reality. This translates in practice into confidence in dealing with other people and the problems life throws your way along with an overall more contented yet prepared mindset that facilitates a more focused and happy lifestyle.
The ultimate goal I'd say would be to acquire a core value of refined pure bidirectional apprehension, acquire and practice the knowledge of tier 3 quantum energy harvesting meditation, and live a very long existence with a high degree of value that you find in life for yourself, while also providing a high degree of value for your environment.